“Talking About Your Problem, May NOT Help”

“Relief- Recovery – Reform for Gamblers…”

You can hear people on the “talk-radio” programs, and  will tell you things… that are almost unbelievable  all about their “Gambling” problems!

Yesterday, this lady called in,  her voice was as if she was on her last rope of LIFE? She sounded like she was in the  deep depths of hell.  she was in “need” …  as her husband was throwing the little bit of  their money  that they had… down the drain.

When I was a little girl, way back in the 1940s…  we were all told that … what we heard was to stay at home, no matter what someone might ask you…  “You are not to repeat what happens in your home,  nor  anything that was said in your home!”

Then, when we were in the Orphanage, and when a visiting Sunday came around and my MOTHER had ask me what I did there for work and play…  I told her exactly  and of that which,  I had told her,  had upset her…  so much that she typed a letter to the “Courts” in Saint Louis, and as a little girl,  I learned firsthand…  HOW and WHY … it is important to keep your mouth shut!

There must be an unwritten rule of what one can, and cannot talk about to the whole wide  world. In other words, “You cannot hang out your “dirty laundry” for the whole world to view!”

Just thinking about this unspeakable rule… I  do believe that is…  what is causing a lot of  our problems – those  –  which we have today!

Without letting people know what is going on and trying to get help to solve the home problems is wrong for each  “person” – HOW  – can we ever expect to FIX the Problem without the right kind of of help?  

We need to get at the “TRUTH” of the situation  and learn by self discipline… only getting to the real “TRUTH” will we ever  seek and receive guidance from the Almighty… the Father of all TRUTH!

Getting back to the lady on the radio… she was telling the radio host…  that she was on disability social security,  that their Television  and one of their telephones was cut off …  due to none payment,  and that they are behind on their mortgage payments and she does not know what to do???

The radio “HOST” asked about her husband…  ‘Does he work?”– “NO!” “His unemployment payment ran out and he is supposed to learn something about a new type of job to do… and that will not be bringing in any  kind of money  as soon as they  need it.”

Also she added, “Whenever he gets any money…  he stops by the “Gambling” places and spends all his money. He will spend any and all  large amounts of money on “Gambling” as fast as he can!”

The “HOST” ask her…  “Does he have a gambling problem?”  “Maybe an addiction??”She then and almost in tears said “YES” …  “and he tells me that he will “WIN” and he will then  double up on the amounts he bets…  but he never gets ahead in any of his “GAMBLING” …  and I just do not know what to do?”

Of course the listeners can tell that the “HOST” is getting disgusted with all of these negative ways of this lady in all  of her and the husband’s  living and  so  “NOW” what can he do,  but to offer to pray for her…  as this program has no way of sending her any financial help, as her husband will only take the cash and blow it!

Just before getting off the “air “ with the “HOST” …  the lady said, “I knew that he gambled before we were married, but I always thought … that I would be able to help him in some way  or the other,  to cut down  and or stop “GAMBLING!”

Well, that was the last straw,  the “HOST” could not take any more of this,  he just finished with saying he would pray for her,  and asked her to do the same,  but to  try  and get some professional help,  and  to do something,   go somewhere immediately to the agencies that are set up… just  for these kind of problems – NOW!


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